The Arguing Style Test
We all wish for the ideal relationship - one in which our partner anticipates all our desires, fulfills all our needs (before we even realize we have them), showers us with attention yet gives us just enough space, shares the same values, knows exactly what to say to make us feel good and is (of course) good-looking, charming, and kind. We might wish for it, but it would be unreasonable to expect that such a person exists! Besides, after a while, being with such a perfect individual could get pretty darn annoying, making our little flaws seem huge in comparison.
I am not a bad "fighter", but I still have a lot to learn when it comes to my arguing approach.
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Arguing Style Test - Revised 40 questions, 20-25 min
This test is designed to evaluate what kind of arguing style you use when you fight with the people you care about.
Examine the following statements and indicate how well they describe you, how often you feel that way, or to what degree you agree with the statement. After finishing the Arguing Style Test, you will receive a detailed, personalized interpretation of your score that includes diagrams, information on the test topic and tips.
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The Self-Disclosure Test for Couples
This test is designed to measure your tendency and willingness to self-disclose, which is essentially "opening-up". The natural need to let us others peek into our minds and souls is what allows us to form close bonds with other human beings, yet not everyone approaches self-disclosure the same way. Do you keep your lips sealed tight with your partner when it comes to personal matters - big or small, embarrassing or not? Or do you let the floodgates open, sharing your thoughts and feelings in an effort to build intimacy and closeness? We all know people who go on and on in extreme detail about their co-workers/classmates, their inner dreams, their opinions on world peace and the sandwich they had for lunch. Others, when asked how their day was, mutter, "Fine, nothing special"; even though they had a car accident or won the lottery. The examples are extreme, obviously, and the differing approaches to self-disclosure are not necessarily good or bad.
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Self-Disclosure Test for Couples - Revised
Are you prone to spilling the beans to your partner, or are you the tight-lipped type? The Self Disclosure Test for Couples examines how much personal information you share with your loved one, which can have a powerful affect on the level of intimacy you attain in your relationship. Go overboard on the self-disclosure, and you might kill passion in the romance; avoid self-disclosing and your partner will never get to know the real you. The key to self-disclosure in relationships is balance!
Fill in the questionnaire, responding as you truthfully would in such situations. If you have never been in one or more of the situations, respond as you most likely would. If you are not presently in a romantic relationship take the test with a past one in mind. If you have never been in one or more of the situations, respond as you most likely would. After finishing the Self-Disclosure Test for Couples, you will receive a detailed, personalized interpretation of your score that includes diagrams, information on the test topic and tips.
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